Welcome to the Conversation
June 23, 2010I relate this story in the introduction to the book, but it bears repeating. Following a presentation on developmental disability ministry to a group of Lutheran seminary students, one young man stayed behind to courageously share what is arguably a common self-assessment. “To be honest,” he confessed, “I feel better prepared to talk to parents whose child has just died than to talk to parents who have just learned their child has a disability.” It was a shockingly blunt observation but such is the strength of emotion that is often tied into the issue. He added, “I simply have no idea how to have that first conversation.”
So began this project. You can click on the “About First Conversation” link above to obtain a copy of the book. I hope you read it and I hope you consider journaling some of your own thoughts as the format of the book suggests. Also, I’d be honored if you’d consider continuing the conversation here.
First Conversation offers both highs and lows in the lives of people with disabilities and those who love them. One observation in the book always catches my attention, perhaps because I know the people involved. Megan describes her sister Jenny, a young woman with Down syndrome, in this way: “She now works at a fast food restaurant, has an iPod and has a boyfriend”. It may seem like a small thing, but I’ve raised two daughters of my own and it’s hard to imagine a more important (and quintessentially average) trilogy for an early-20-something than a job, iPod and boyfriend. Would that Jenny could sit in on every pastor’s First Conversation.
David Morstad
I’m so excited to see this taking place. May God bless this blog and the book and use them to His glory. I’ll be spreading the word to everyone I know.
Thank you for this very helpful book. I hope that becomes a valuable resources to pastors and other church professionals.
On January 5, 2000, our youngest son, Timothy, was born. Shortly after birth we were informed that he had down syndrome. His early years were a real challenge to us, and challenges continue to beset us. But now at age 20, Timothy has charmed himself into the hearts of hundreds of people. He enjoys a relatively happy life by the grace of God. We daily thank God for the gift of our son. And having him as our son has made it possible for us to reach out to so many families that struggle with issues with their children. We have been richly blessed.
Rev. David and Becky Rubke